Springboard Life Coaching Areas of Special Interest
Anxiety looks towards the future with fear, imagining all the things that could go wrong. However, we can choose to, and then learn how to move away from fear. The more self confident you become, the more you can find freedom from fear and anxiety. You can learn to accept, handle, learn, gain, and benefit from any situation, circumstance, or outcome; in this way, you will naturally replace fear and anxiety with greater confidence in yourself and your abilities. Fear avoidance tends to make fear stronger - whatever we resist persists! Slowly exposing ourselves to the things that cause fear can often help reduce the level of distress experienced. It is only the fear of a thing that keeps you from experiencing joy, not the thing itself. If you try to ignore, sublimate or control that fear you will not succeed, and it will raise its head in some other facet of your life.
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop and look fear in the face.” Eleanor Roosevelt.
Healthy relationships are a vital component of health and wellbeing. There is compelling evidence that strong relationships contribute to a long, healthy, and happy life. Life coaching can help you to learn to develop more effective relationships. Trust and rapport provide the bedrock for relationships. So too in life coaching - this is where transformation can occur. Not all relationships are going to be perfect all the time, but for the most part, a good relationship makes you feel secure, happy, loved, respected and free to be yourself.
Stress and anxiety
Being stressed or anxious releases adrenaline, raises our blood pressure, increases our heart rate and compromises our immune system, all of which we know is not good for our health.
Physical activities like exercise increase the production of endorphins (natural pain-killing hormones) and tire out the body, helping us sleep better after a stressful or long day. Eating balanced meals is also a big contributor to both physical and mental health. Reducing stress levels can also be helped by avoiding caffeine, alcohol and nicotine, relaxation techniques, talking to someone, and learning how to manage our time. Where anxiety has been triggered by trauma, working through this can be of enormous benefit.
As human beings, we all have our own values, beliefs and attitudes that we have developed throughout the course of our lives. Our family, friends, community and the experiences we have had all contribute to our sense of who we are, and how we view the world. Ultimately all our decisions need to be supported by our highest values. If the way we act and think are in conflict with our values, we will experience disharmony, disconnectedness, dissonance, discomfort. Our ability to remain authentic becomes compromised. This is why reconnecting with our values lies at the heart of life coaching.
Lack of self confidence can be one of the main factors that triggers depression. This doesn't mean that depression affects people who lack self confidence but it means that building self confidence will make you less likely to get depressed. A daily relaxation practice can help relieve symptoms of depression, reduce stress, and boost feelings of joy and well-being. Breaking the cycle is important. One example is through activity and physical exercise.
When we're depressed, we can feel particularly tired and lack any motivation to do anything. Just increasing our activity and exercise levels can make an enormous impact on our mood, as it stimulates the body to produce natural anti-depressants. It can make us feel better about yourselves, feel less tired, motivated to do more, improve our ability to think more clearly, and help us think about something other than our unhelpful thoughts.
The most important question, right now, is...
Do you want to become a more self confident person?
Leave aside ‘what if'’ and become happier and more successful. Discover less stress, more peace of mind, more energy and more motivation to act. Ultimately resulting in more beneficial and enjoyable interactions with others.
The most important factor for becoming more self confident is to simply want to develop greater confidence in yourself. This means you need to be decisive about taking action to do so.
Self confidence and happiness are strongly connected. It is all about knowing that you are good, worthy and capable of facing life problems. Self confidence can change your whole life for the better and have a positive effect on your social relations, career, achievements and even your mood. The more self-confident you become, the more risks you will be willing to take, and the more opportunities you will encounter.
Some people are so chronically affected by procrastination that it stops them fulfilling their potential and disrupts their careers. There can be many reasons why people allow procrastination into their lives. One reason is that we find a particular job unpleasant, and try to avoid it because of that. Another cause is that we are disorganized.
Whatever we do, there is a good reason behind it. Every behaviour, response, emotion, has a positive benefit. The unconscious mind controls 95% of our life, and the conscious mind only 5% - but both want a good result. They are both working to try and benefit us. So we need to find a way to get them to collaborate rather than be in conflict. We can release ourselves from the need for this habit, once we can truly appreciate the role it has played in our life, and therefore the reason for our having invited it in. Once we can assimilate this, we can learn to move forward.